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So I know I've been totally neglecting Simply Evani, which I apologize in advance for! I don't have much time to write eloquently about it right now but since I kept you in suspense for the last few months about it, I thought it would only be fair to spit it out.

For about 2 years, Rob has been actively applying for a job in law enforcement. He knew he wanted 1 specific branch and since I don't want the search results to lead here, I'm not going to outright say which department.

In February of this year, Rob passed the physical test required for him to continue in the application process. With what I would say are very rigorous standards, he made the cut and I'm not ashamed to admit I cried like a baby when he came home to tell me. He worked so hard to pass and it felt like the first of many hurdles he would overcome.

Then after the wedding, we decided to put off our honeymoon because he was still in the background check phase of his application process. I didn't want to take any chances on missing key opportunities.

After months long of background checks, psych tests, piles of paperwork, we found out on August 13th, he was accepted into the next academy of this law enforcement agency. Then too, we cried together, sharing in the first true step towards him achieving his dream of becoming an officer.

The difficult part was that the academy was slated to begin 1.5 weeks from the day he received the offer. Knowing how long it would be until we'd get to take a honeymoon, we booked a last minute trip to Cabo for 5 glorious days. I can say those 5 days were an absolute DREAM, and completely necessary to get us through this next phase of life.

We spent the last week searching for items he'd need, preparing him with knowledge that would help him there, and generally coming to terms with the fact that life as we know it would never be the same.

So what's the big dealio with him getting a new job? Well it's a live-in academy so he no longer lives in our home. For 6 months. And they completely restrict communication (no phone use, with the exception of maybe a 2-5 minute phone call at the end of the night, if that). Granted, it's located relatively close to where we live, which already puts us at a major advantage for seeing each other on those rare weekends compared to the cadets whose homes are much further. But for those of you who know me and are long time readers of this blog, Rob and I are seldom separate. In 9 years, I can count on my fingers the number days we've gone without seeing each other (I know, BLECH). We've always been blessed with schedules that aligned and the inability to become sick of each other.

Plus, picking a career in law enforcement is a big commitment, and one that requires sacrifice from everyone involved. It's been a challenge for me to deal with the idea of Rob putting his life on the line everyday, but it's something he truly wants and I support him wholeheartedly.

Alsoooo as if that's not enough change, at the end of 6 months, we will be relocating to another part of California... I'm sure I'll write more about this to come.

So thus begins the new chapter of us surviving our new "normal". He will hopefully get to come home on some weekends, provided he passes his weekly tests and fails to get in trouble. It's going to be a big adjustment, today being the first of those long days of no contact. Well, that's not true, I got a 51 second phone call that completely made my day. I miss him already and I can even tell Shay misses him, she keeps looking at the door, waiting.

Phew, sorry for the long post. I don't want to go on and on about this too much because I'm actually writing an anonymous blog the on side about our experiences with joining law enforcement and this academy. If you're interested in having the link to that blog to keep up while Rob is in the academy, feel free to e-mail, comment or tweet me so I can give that to you. If you barely get around to reading my blog, that's okay too. :)

Anyhoots, it's going to be a long road but a worthwhile one. Supporting him in what he believes he's meant to do is one of the many reasons I married him and I'm so excited for what is to come. He's going to make a spectacular law enforcement officer and I'm so so proud of him.

Love,

E

P.S. Feel free to send Rob any good vibes, prayers or thoughts. It's a reallllly tough academy and he'll need all the positive mojo he could get.

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I've been quite a tease with our wedding photos, so thanks for hangin' in there. I think logically, it makes sense to do my Wedding Wednesdays in chronological order, but I haven't even shared my bridal shower or bachelorette party yet...So I'm going to do what I want, and post my wedding photos first, and then go back and do some of the pre-wedding posts. Because. :)

For this week's Wedding Wednesday, I'm sharing morning-of-the-wedding photos taken by the talented Emily of Anna Delores Photography. Our ceremony was at 11:30 am so the ladies had an early morning wake up call.

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Fact: Sometimes I still fantasize about putting my dress on again just for fun. I loved it.

Wedding Morning Of2One of my favorite pictures from our wedding day, a moment with my Mama.

Wedding Morning Of4It took a small army to hook all the buttons on my dress. What you don't see under my piles of hair is a sunburn of an "x" on my back from a shirt I had worn the day before, during set up. Lol Ah memories.

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Despite what a shoe fanatic I can be, I bought these no-name bad boys on Amazon. They matched the David's Bridal bridesmaid color "Oasis" perfectly!

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Rob and I wrote letters to each other to open on the morning of. Of course, I cried.

Wedding Morning Of8Lezbe-honest, I love this pic because my boobs look awesome. Also, I loved my bouquet but it was dead about an hour after the ceremony. Womp womp.

Wedding Morning Of7Emily can make any moment feel romantic. This was honestly the first time I sat down in my dress and I was certain I looked like a whale. Well done Emily, well done.

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I just love this one.

As you can see, there are no full group pictures of the bridesmaids in the robes I got for us from Etsy. Why? Because our morning was pure CHAOS. 8 women rotating in and out of 3 different hotel rooms, simultaneously doing hair and makeup in a rush. I'll be honest and say it wasn't my favorite part of our wedding day (by a long shot). I still cry a little thinking about how I never got a picture with all of my best friends in our robes, but in the end making it to the church on time was much more important. [Note to future brides: Make extra time for getting-ready pictures if they are important to you. I will forever mourn this.]

Meanwhile, let's get a peek at the men's morning:

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Yup, definitely off to an infinitely better start than our morning.

Wedding Morning Of13These goofballs.

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These really are Rob's best friends, I adore these guys.

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I love that Rob owns this suit and I can make him put it on any time. :)

Wedding Morning Of15My wedding gift to him via Etsy. It has our wedding date on the back.

Wedding MorningOf 16A wonderful Mother-son moment before the walk down the aisle.

A disclaimer on future wedding posts:

Don't get me wrong, I absolutely loved our wedding. The details, the people, the feelings, the photographs, all of it was exactly how I imagined it. What I didn't plan on was the intense amount of emotions I felt ALL DAY. I woke up the day of my wedding and cried for a good 20 minutes. Why? I don't know honestly. Maybe it was the overwhelming feeling of months of planning, coming to a head. Or the fact that I knew everyone we loved had traveled to be part of our day, just to see us. The pressure of having planned the entire day without being in control of all the moving parts was always in the back in the mind too, I think. And I'm sure most of the emotion was joy in finally getting to marry Rob and pure happiness at having all the people we loved in one room. But overall, the emotions of the day were utterly overwhelming (most of the time).

A good overwhelming though, the kind when only good things are about to happen. I mean, I cry when I see a sappy jewelry commercial, I should've know my wedding day was going to make me an emotional wreck. But nothing really prepares you for that either.

So don't be surprised, I'm crying in so many more photos to come. But they are happy tears.

Please feel free to comment (especially if you tell me that you too, were a blubbering mess on your wedding day or that you plan to be someday). Also, don't be shy about praising Emily's photography skills, she truly has an incredible gift of showing the best sides of people.

Love,

Evani

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One of my favorite things about having more than one best friend is having different things in common with each of them. With Eva, we share a foodie soul, a neverending love for trying new foods and dining experiences. For her 26th birthday, she reserved a table at the Tomales Bay Oyster Company where we ate our weight in oysters, cheese and charcuterie. Talk about a good day.

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So much good food and laughs shared amongst friends. Oh and the oysters... the oysters... I still dream of them. I love mine raw, with a good hearty squeeze of lemon and a sprinkle of Tapatio. Shucking oysters is hard work, but well worth it. We were even able to bring our pups, who were a handful but a big hit with the kids.

If you plan on hitting up Tomales Bay Oyster Company (which is about an hour and a half north of San Francisco), make sure you've reserved a table in advance, pack an ice chest to keep your oysters cool and bring good food, friends and appetites. Also, don't bother dressing up too much if you plan on shucking oysters (which you should, it's fun!). It's a messy worthwhile activity.

Do you like oysters? Have you ever shucked an oyster? Better yet, where you live, is there an oyster destination I have to visit??

Love,

Evani

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I've been so out of it lately friends. First of all, having a puppy is no joke. I understand why puppies were made to be so adorable because otherwise, no one would sign up for this madness. We literally can't take our eyes off Hunter without him peeing or chewing on something. I haven't even watched a full TV show in weeks.

Hunter6Good thing he's adorable....

Like I mentioned before, there's a life change possibly happening soon for Rob and I which is leaving me with a bit of anxiety. If all goes well, we'll be moving again next month, if we can find a place that fits all of our specifications. I hate being so vague, but I don't want to jinx things by counting our chickens before they've hatched (and we should know by the end of this month). I've always struggled with change, so I've been spending extra quality time snuggling with Rob and our pup babies during the evenings, instead of blogging like I used to.

But I'm trying to get back to normal life (whatever that was, before the insanity that was planning a giant wedding). And the first thing on my mind is FOOTBALL SEASON BABY!!

2 years ago, I hosted a females only fantasy football league. I had dreams of turning fellow friends into fantasy football fanatics like myself, but to be honest, I slacked off and didn't tend to the league enough. This year, I'm ready! So I'm calling out to any and all of my friends, real life or blogging world, who wants to join a females only fantasy football league?!? It won't require much of a time commitment (less than a half hour to an hour a week) and I'll even provide weekly e-mails and tweets with helpful hints and reminders to set your lineups. If your husband, boyfriend or significant other is one of those guys plastered to the TV on Sundays and Mondays, joining a fantasy football league will make it exciting for you too, I promise.

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All females are welcome to join, regardless of how much football knowledge you have or don't have! I'll repost my old football tutorials and post some news ones too for learning sake. Don't fear if you have no football knowledge, as long as you're willing to learn, this league is for you!

So leave me a comment with your e-mail address below if you're willing to join the league! If not, leave me a comment anyways, just to say hi. :)

I promise I will have some wedding photos up for Wedding Wednesday next week, and hopefully an update on our female fantasy football league!

Love,

Evani