I Forgot

Okay, it's no surprise things have been slow around Simply Evani lately. I keep trying to "reinvent" things (aka the constant layout changes) but the real problem is with me.

Online, I worry about the potentially stupid decision to put my real name in the blog title. It was catchy, kept the field of focus general and I knew it was something that would never change. But it's also made me hyper aware of what I put online. How many Evani's do you know?

That's what I figured.

So, I censor myself constantly. I worry about seeming too "immature" posting about Disneyland all the time. Or being perceived as a "partier" if I post about too much alcohol. Or not writing professional enough to be approached by brands or companies that I wouldn't mind working with (admit it, if you're a blogger, you know you wouldn't mind it...). There's a whole lot of worrying happening over here.

But I was reading back a few posts on my blog lately and the only word I can use to describe them is BLAND. Boring. I lost the little quirks about my blog that let you know who I am. I forgot how to be me. So I promise in the coming weeks, I'm going to think less about what others think of me and just bring back more of the "Evani" in Simply Evani.

To tide you over for the weekend, I've got some amazing blogger friends that HAVE it together. So without further adieu, I'm going to share their posts to hopefully inspire me as well!

LovelyLinks

I love Alyssa's "Spill it" posts, because it's always fun to get to know your readers.

Setarra's engagement storyΒ  is so sweet.

Nicole is the BEST at organization, I mean she even blogs on the weekends! Check out her new series BOW: Balance and Organization at Work.

If you love fashion and wine, Lauren is your gal. She's a winery on the weekend gal, like yours truly.

I don't encourage voting for every blogger in the world but Niki, she's the real deal. Vote for her in a Nordstom's contest, she's simply the best!

Melissa's 6 Things is a fun read, as is Rima's. Those two are my girls.

No one, I repeat no one does a weekly wrap up like Lyss. She is the ultimate connoisseur of blog links.

Because you won't ever see a good fashion post come from me, here's Yi-Chia to show you how it's done. Jenn pulls off some amazing work wear too!

Alsoooooo just because it can't without being mentioned HOW BOUT THEM BRONCOS?!?

WOO HOO. Also, this weekend, I'm seeing these bad boys...

BSB

Okay, so they don't look like that anymore but you can bet your bottom dollar I'm going to be screamin like a 13 year old version of myself. Best. Weekend. Ever.

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13 thoughts on “I Forgot

  1. I do this ALL OF THE TIME! I find myself making Dean read posts and saying "do you think this sounds weird?" "is it okay to curse?" "is this unprofessional?" It takes so much time and effort to do that and I end up taking away all of the fun and creative pieces of it. Dean keeps trying to tell me the same thing you're saying here, but it's difficult to remember sometimes.

    Thanks for including me in your roundup πŸ™‚

  2. I think it's normal to feel like this, I know I often do. Putting yourself out there is a vulnerable experience. I think the reality is it's impossible to make everyone that might be potentially in your audience happy, and when you try... It ends up making for really bland content. So, just be yourself. πŸ™‚

  3. Aww thank you SO much for your kind words and for spreading the word! And don't ever worry about what others thing, just blog about the things you love and your readers will always be here reading, because we love YOU. πŸ™‚

  4. i will be waiting for this snapchat of yours at the concert. My brother went to BSB last night at Verizon Amp in Irvine with his gf and her fam. He kept on posting videos on instagram. I hate myself. Hahahah... Well not really. I had to drop Rob at LAX.

    Anyways, GURL. JUST BE YOURSELF! Bring the Evani in you. Hehehehe... either way, I still LUB you πŸ™‚

  5. Heeeeeeeeey!!! Love the new loook over here and thanks for the shout out!

    Just be yourself. I like the Disneyland posts, the make me want to go back so much! Write about what you're passionate about.

  6. I hope you had fun watching the Boys! I like it when you are yourself on the blog, that's what made me fall in love with you in the first place, so don't ever change.

    And thank you for mentioning me! πŸ™‚

    xo, Yi-chia
    Always Maylee

  7. Girl, I feel ya on this. Especially with me currently unemployed and applying to all these different jobs. I wonder if the employers will find my blog and not consider me for the position because of it. But at the end of the day, you just gotta do you because it's what make you happy. And I for one, don't think of you as a drunkard based on your blog so hopefully that counts for something. Thanks for the shout out! It helps to know that other people think I have my shiut together even if I don't think I do πŸ˜‰

    Oh Kevin... So tall, dark and handsome with that deep baritone voice. Hope the BSB concert was ah-mazing!

  8. this is so inspiring Evani. It's so short but so real and so...what I needed to hear.

    That is the most difficult part of blogging isn't it? Finding your voice and where you fit into the online world.

    Keep being you because you're the most darling!

  9. So first I have to say I laughed out loud about your constant layout change! I love your changing layouts! And until recently I did the same all the time. It is not a personal choice, just blogger changed a ton of things and when I try to edit something it doesn't work! Guess I am stuck with my current layout for-ev-va (*sandlot voice).

    On a more serious note, I really appreciate you putting yourself out there with this post. I have always enjoyed the authentic Evani that you are. I think that meeting you in person only confirmed your kindness and generous heart. As a girl who also is a bit young at heart, I think there is nothing wrong with finding pure joy in life...and in Disneyland. When I first started blogging I felt really young writing in a home decor niche. Why would anyone take a mid twenties single girl seriously when there were other women with homes, and husbands, and kids, and life wisdom. But in time I found my place and feel much more comfortable there. I am actually surprised now how many women older than me do enjoy reading my blog. I think that is one of the fantastic things about blogging, things like age or whatever else we base on real life first time experiences are not as prevalent because it is our words that draw us to each other.

    Anyways, sorry about the novel. But I also want you to know that I feel like I know you more because of the way you comment on my blog than I get from your posts. I say this in the sense that I think when your guard is down a bit, your real self shines. And I mean SHINE. You are such a wonderful person and I think your readers are honestly missing out on the blessing of knowing the real you. I know it is hard to put yourself out there. And sometimes people say and think nasty things. But I think when you find your true voice, you will find your people. The people who actually think those things you worry about--you don't want them around here anyways.

    I think there will always be a bit of hesitation in blogging because we are putting ourselves out there to the world and wait impatiently for their response. It's scary. But I guarantee you will find that with courage to put it out there, not only will it reach your readers, but more importantly, you will better embrace who you are and not need the acceptance of others to determine the worth of your story.

    That being said, you are fabulous. Keep on being true to who you are and especially in this exciting season of your life. You want to look back and read and remember your heart's state during your engagement.

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